How can Sex Therapy help me and why exactly Psychosexual Somatics therapy?
Sex therapists and specific counselling that helps people with sexual issues and problems is new in our society. It seems to be still big taboo in England even London. I call psychosexual therapy often more as shame therapy. There is still so much shame about having sexual needs and achievement of pleasure.
Integration of sexuality
My role as therapist in Psychosexual therapy is partly about teaching psycho-sexual education and holding safe and contained space for my clients to share, explore and integrate, but my main intention that comes from me, is to help people bring more connection to the body and curiosity about their behaviours, impulses, so they can start to feel and respect their real truth, express it and live it in their life.
Find who you are behind all layers of shame and performance, we all have got from our surroundings during our life, especially childhood and puberty. Who gives you permission to feel pleasure and joy in your life?
Who you are, what do you feel and what do you need and want in your life? And how od you feel yourself as woman or man? Do you know what is pleasure and how can you enjoy it and share it?
Why are we having sex?
For lots of people, because of some past traumatic or bad experience, became sex something scary, difficult, hard work or kind of performance to achieve verification, way how to get connection and often right way to feel normal. But truly in that is not much to enjoy and feel. There is shame about not doing it, not having sex, not being sexy, and good enough for others. Shame of not feeling normal, because everybody else having great sex life, just not me, so I am not having normal life. Suppression and frustration that often slowly appears in everyday life. Some of us slowly learn to ignore it and play down our sexual part. To be way too busy with many other things.
I am last person to judge, because I know that place, I was there self before and I also know where I am now, loving my life, my sexuality and way to manifest my truth through what I can feel and enjoy. I am here to help to them, who got enough of feeling frustrated and unhappy, feeling they have no power in their life and they wish to change it, they are ready to start the journey of healing and exploring why they really are. Maybe somebody took it from them in past, by abusing their pure sexual energy, manipulating them and breaking trust. Or even not being allowed to recognise their sexual self in their live, it simply did not exist when they grew up. It is hard to be sexual and happy when the world feels dangerous and unfriendly place.
Please be aware of, it is never too late to slowly come back home, into your body, to yourself and get back your power, joy of life.