For many people, sexual intimacy becomes difficult or distressing following past experiences such as trauma, challenging relationships, or confusing messages about sexuality. Sex may begin to feel pressured, effortful, or disconnected, becoming a performance or a way of seeking reassurance and validation, rather than a source of pleasure or connection.
Shame very often underlies these experiences. This may include shame about desire, about not wanting sex, or about not feeling “normal” or sexual enough. Over time, this can lead to emotional distance, frustration, or a gradual disconnection from the body and from one’s own needs. Many people learn to minimise or ignore their sexual selves altogether, focusing instead on staying busy or simply coping.
Psychosexual therapy offers a structured yet compassionate space to explore these experiences and to understand what has shaped your relationship with intimacy, desire, and, most importantly, with your body. I work with individuals and couples who feel disconnected, numb, anxious, or powerless, including those affected by sexual trauma, abuse, boundary violations, or early experiences where sexuality was not acknowledged or supported.
Therapy is not about forcing change or meeting expectations. It is about rebuilding safety, choice, and connection, and supporting you to reconnect with yourself in a way that feels authentic and alive.
It is never too late to return to your body, to restore a sense of agency, and to rediscover pleasure and emotional intimacy.
