In over ten years of working with couples, I have come to see how rarely relationship difficulties begin in the present moment alone. Couples often come to therapy asking themselves why the same argument keeps happening and more hurt by the disconnection and quiet loneliness between them than by the conflict itself.
How we love now was shaped long before we met our partner. The relationships we grew up in with parents, family, the people who cared for us, taught us how to ask for comfort, how to protect ourselves when things felt unsafe, and how to react when we feel unseen. We carry those patterns into our adult relationships, often without realising how we react.
Couples therapy offers a space to slow these patterns down, understand what is happening beneath the surface, and begin creating a different experience of connection, one grounded in emotional safety, openness, and intimacy.
Therapy may be helpful if you are experiencing any of the following or simply if something between you feels stuck and you are not sure why.
Often, it is not the presence of conflict that creates the most pain, but the way partners become caught in protective patterns that leave both feeling alone and misunderstood.
My approach is attachment-based and trauma-informed, with a particular focus on the nervous-system dynamics that drive conflict cycles. I am a COSRT-registered therapist and have been working with couples for over a decade. Read more about my approach and training →
Rather than looking for someone to blame, we focus on the relational system the two of you are caught in, and what each of you needs to feel safe enough to move differently within it.
Together, we explore:
As safety grows between partners, communication softens naturally and intimacy becomes possible again.
Sessions are a space where both partners feel heard — not judged, not managed, and not steered toward a predetermined outcome.
In practice, sessions may involve:
For many couples, emotional distance eventually affects sexual intimacy too. Where it feels right, we can gently explore how relational dynamics, unresolved hurt, stress or trauma are influencing closeness because restoring intimacy almost always begins with restoring emotional safety.
It is never too late to begin again.
If sexual difficulty is the central concern rather than a secondary one, you may also want to read about Psychosexual Therapy, which I am specifically trained in.
Not every couple comes wanting to stay together. Some arrive genuinely unsure whether the relationship should continue. Both are welcome here.
Separation-focused couples work offers a structured, respectful space to end a relationship with clarity and dignity. The focus is not blame, but honest communication, emotional processing and reducing unnecessary harm — particularly where children or shared responsibilities are involved.
We may focus on:
Ending a relationship does not have to mean ending in hostility.
Fees and booking details on the Contact page.